One thing I found out about myself after having a kid on the spectrum is how resistant I was to advice. I found I wasn’t alone, when I interacted with other parents in general especially of special needs kids. My wife and I were for some reason we are very resistant to taking advice. We had convinced ourselves that our son was so unique no one could possibly help. The irony is we are constantly asking for help and feeling overwhelmed many nights ending in tears, yet denying others from helping in the form of advice. Without realizing it we become a lonely island. I wanted to post this quote and the song I get it from as it impacted me greatly in this area. Whenever someone gives my any advice on any subject I come back to this thought.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
Wishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off
Painting over the ugly parts and recycling for more than it’s worth
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I have learned to accept and be thankful for advice because it means people care, sometimes it is helpful and sometimes its not. Taking advice is a lot like taking a gift its always best to accept it politely and maybe you can regift that advice to someone else if it doesn’t work for you. Here is the full song full credit to Baz Luhrmann. A lot of great advice in here.
Here is the intro to my youtube channel which I will be dedicating to things that have helped us raise my autistic son and also my a typical son. A summary of each video will go here if you can’t listen to it with volume provide a background on the video complete with links etc.
For example the full meaning behind unchewable is one day someone had said “Life chews you up and spits you out” and in that moment I said my faith has made me unchewable. I didn’t realize then how much my faith would be tested. Having a autistic son has affecting my marriage, how we raised our 2nd son, my diet, how I interact with others and how I look at life in general. On the news we constantly here about all the negative things that are happening. Here I want to be able to help other parents whether they have an autistic child or not and hopefully make there life a little easier. I will also be making blogs based on questions I receive so this can be a resource for others.
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Another hot tip from a parent with a kid on the spectrum. Hide your styrofoam well.
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The story of the cracked pot is a cool one when its not your story. When you feel like your the cracked pot its sometimes easy to focus on all the negative things in your life and loose site of the positive. There is times where I feel like a little kid hiding in a giant cracked pot and someone will see through the cracks and see me and some days I feel like I don’t know who that is myself. Why is my son autistic why do I have the struggles I have etc. On those days it doesn’t seem to matter what people say I am just in a funk and I need to get out of it.
So how do I get out of it? I read my Bible and I ride my bike. This won’t be the same for everyone but it’s what helps me focus on the positive things in my life and not the negative. The guest speaker talked about how we are a culture that compares our lives to everyone else’s. If we always compare ourselves to other people we can never be content. I choose to be me be a good father, husband, employee and athlete. I won’t use other people’s scale I will just do my best to move forward in all these areas.
What is your hobby or exercise that helps you center yourself?
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