One thing I found out about myself after having a kid on the spectrum is how resistant I was to advice. I found I wasn’t alone, when I interacted with other parents in general especially of special needs kids. My wife and I were for some reason we are very resistant to taking advice. We had convinced ourselves that our son was so unique no one could possibly help. The irony is we are constantly asking for help and feeling overwhelmed many nights ending in tears, yet denying others from helping in the form of advice. Without realizing it we become a lonely island. I wanted to post this quote and the song I get it from as it impacted me greatly in this area. Whenever someone gives my any advice on any subject I come back to this thought.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
Wishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off
Painting over the ugly parts and recycling for more than it’s worth
I have learned to accept and be thankful for advice because it means people care, sometimes it is helpful and sometimes its not. Taking advice is a lot like taking a gift its always best to accept it politely and maybe you can regift that advice to someone else if it doesn’t work for you. Here is the full song full credit to Baz Luhrmann. A lot of great advice in here.