What do a watering can an iPad and a autistic kid have in common…. They are all in my room lol. The saying pick your battles is often interjected in dealing with marriage in general and to a lesser extent parenting as well however for parenting a kid with ASD its a survival tool.
A battle I will always pick is being careful of non-verbal communication in front of my kids. Watching a really cool show called Reverie on NBC in the opening sequence of the first episode she talks about how much of our communication is non-verbal.
Albert Mehrabian, author of Silent Messages, conducted several studies on nonverbal communication. He found that 7% of any message is conveyed through words, 38% through certain vocal elements, and 55% through nonverbal elements (facial expressions, gestures, posture, etc). Subtracting the 7% for actual vocal content leaves one with the 93% statistic.
A few days later I had a really cool conversation with a special needs pastor who brought up a interesting point. If someone has a sense impaired their other senses are heightened so by that logic it follows that a child that has trouble communicating verbally would have a heightened sense of nonverbal communication. Our son seems to pick up on lots of subtle non-verbal ques.
How is your non-verbal body language in front of your kids and other kids with disabilities? What are some things that can help direct your body language in a more positive way.