Just Keep Going

It’s easy to get caught up in going through the motions as parents. Even if you are confident with who you are maybe you struggle with what your doing or where your going . I have had lots of conversations with different people from all different walks of life and scenarios and the question is the same. What am I doing with my life and what should I be doing? A lot of people put this into the box of their profession or charity work, expecting it to both define and fulfill them. Take some time to get away in … Continue reading Just Keep Going

The Adventure Man

I don’t know what age it starts but at some point as adults we lose our sense of adventure. I am not talking about wreck-less chance taking, stay away from those people. I am talking about something that gets you out of your comfort zone and lets you disconnect. A lot of my life as a special needs parent has been about denying all of the denying. How do you do this or that with a special needs child? How do you find time, space to do… I don’t know if it’s cultural or not but a lot of people … Continue reading The Adventure Man

Who am I

It’s easy to get lost in all the therapies and busyness of being a parent with a special needs child. We get so busy we become human doings instead of human beings. Who am I? Am I lost? Finding moments to just be yourself especially something that pulls you out of your normal routine is a activity worth doing. This is me at LA critical mass cruising along the streets of LA. I pick somewhere way different to eat each time I am there and it’s always a adventure. When was the last time you did something on your own? … Continue reading Who am I

Laidback

Just a few seconds before this shot he was throwing a fit about having his shoes on at the park. We say “I pick my battles” all the time but how well do we do that? I have found that being more laid back has helped turn a fit into giggling more often then not. How good are you at picking your battles? Do you have a bad day when your child is having a bad day? We become the solid rudder that steadies the ship if we stay positive and patient with our kids it isn’t easy but it’s … Continue reading Laidback

Our Dirty Laundry

When you have a kid on the spectrum most of the attention is put on the child and rightly so to help them tackle the world with their unique challenges. One of the things we often over look as parents when we put are kids first is we also put all of our issues on our kids. With out meaning to we bring our dirty laundry for our kids to deal with. A parent that has issues with anger shouldn’t be shocked that their special needs kid has issues with anger. A parent who is really attached to their things … Continue reading Our Dirty Laundry

This one is pho you

It’s hard not to get so wrapped up in my story that I forget there are other people in it. If I have a bad day with kids or feeling the rush of work, getting kids from school then to therapy. Working on my own issues and being available for my wife while helping out at church and my bicycle club, it just doesn’t feel like there is enough time in the day. However every once in a while I am reminded that doing something good can be something simple and that it’s always worth while. My co-worker gave me … Continue reading This one is pho you

Communicating in chaos

What do a watering can an iPad and a autistic kid have in common…. They are all in my room lol. The saying pick your battles is often interjected in dealing with marriage in general and to a lesser extent parenting as well however for parenting a kid with ASD its a survival tool. A battle I will always pick is being careful of non-verbal communication in front of my kids. Watching a really cool show called Reverie on NBC in the opening sequence of the first episode she talks about how much of our communication is non-verbal. Albert Mehrabian, … Continue reading Communicating in chaos

The Forgotten Key

This key sat right out in the open of one of the busiest streets in Chicago. I wondered what the story was behind it and how so many people over looked it and for how long as it had rust on it. Was it just one of many keys or was it a key that was central to someone’s story? During my seminar we talked about a primary key which is needed for a database to work. I feel like a lot of us in the busyness of life loose our primary key what makes us… well us. Make sure … Continue reading The Forgotten Key

Angling for the right approach

There will always be moments in your life when you are trying to help someone see the other side of a dark time and your not sure how to help them. One of the biggest lessons my son has taught me is to keep trying different angles. He loves to swim but every year I have to help him remember. He will yell and scream “no Pool no Pool” to which I reply “you love the Pool bubba don’t you remember”. I try different things until something works and then he loves it and it’s hard to get him out … Continue reading Angling for the right approach

Brush brush brush all day long.

I would say my biggest hurtle raising my boys especially my ASD son has been myself. What I think he can and can not do can affect what I slow him to try. My greatest rewards have been when we just tried something without guessing what we thought he could do. I hear a lot of parents say my child can’t do that to which I will always reply are you sure and have you tried it anyway they may surprise you. Brushing teeth was one of our biggest lessons and one of my most painful memories. We brushed his … Continue reading Brush brush brush all day long.

Amongst the critical masses

I ride twice a week for fitness if not more but sometimes it’s good to have a unlikely place to clear your head. For me I go to La for one of the largest regular bike rides you can attend. The last Friday of every month they roll out at 7:29p. All kinds of people and bikes from all different walks of life. This last ride I noticed how many good conversations I had with strangers and realized I don’t really do that anywhere else. Getting there isn’t always easy and the late night takes its tool but every time … Continue reading Amongst the critical masses