You reap what you sew so invest in people

Whether you are having a typical child or a special needs child it’s natural to pull away for a time. It makes sense as you are trying to balance everything that has changed. The question is when do you try to start hanging out with others. One thing I have noticed a lot is parents with special needs kids sometimes never do. Everyone needs community but when you have a child on the spectrum you feel like you don’t belong anywhere, which makes you retract from people and when something happens there is very few people to lean on . … Continue reading You reap what you sew so invest in people

A surreal end and new beginning

It came faster then we wanted and under less then ideal conditions but the day is here. We knew our Aba company only handled up to 6th grade and that we would need to find another company in the fall. Due to Kendra changing jobs with different insurance we had to stop services early. The other catch is we now have no services until we go through the whole process with the new insurance company. I am a little emo but I know things will work out. Continue reading A surreal end and new beginning

Be a moment-er

Someone who creates moments for others. They are few and far between but when you find a person who invites you to do things hold on to them. My buddy Chris is a spontaneous person that is always inviting me to do stuff last minute. A lot of times I will confess I am not able too but it’s always awesome when I do. This was one of those days where we got to watch a autism friendly movie and spend some time at the park. This year we are trying to Make room for the opportunity to hang out … Continue reading Be a moment-er

The long walk

One of the first things we noticed with our son that indicated he was different was when he would separate himself from everyone else. I am not wired this way and always want to be around people so it has taken some getting use to. As he has gotten older I have started referring to this as the long walk and we work really hard at engaging with him so he doesn’t do it all the time. It has become a bit of a game of cat and mouse and we have fun with it but some times we need … Continue reading The long walk

Who am I

It’s easy to get lost in all the therapies and busyness of being a parent with a special needs child. We get so busy we become human doings instead of human beings. Who am I? Am I lost? Finding moments to just be yourself especially something that pulls you out of your normal routine is a activity worth doing. This is me at LA critical mass cruising along the streets of LA. I pick somewhere way different to eat each time I am there and it’s always a adventure. When was the last time you did something on your own? … Continue reading Who am I

Laidback

Just a few seconds before this shot he was throwing a fit about having his shoes on at the park. We say “I pick my battles” all the time but how well do we do that? I have found that being more laid back has helped turn a fit into giggling more often then not. How good are you at picking your battles? Do you have a bad day when your child is having a bad day? We become the solid rudder that steadies the ship if we stay positive and patient with our kids it isn’t easy but it’s … Continue reading Laidback

Our Dirty Laundry

When you have a kid on the spectrum most of the attention is put on the child and rightly so to help them tackle the world with their unique challenges. One of the things we often over look as parents when we put are kids first is we also put all of our issues on our kids. With out meaning to we bring our dirty laundry for our kids to deal with. A parent that has issues with anger shouldn’t be shocked that their special needs kid has issues with anger. A parent who is really attached to their things … Continue reading Our Dirty Laundry

Angling for the right approach

There will always be moments in your life when you are trying to help someone see the other side of a dark time and your not sure how to help them. One of the biggest lessons my son has taught me is to keep trying different angles. He loves to swim but every year I have to help him remember. He will yell and scream “no Pool no Pool” to which I reply “you love the Pool bubba don’t you remember”. I try different things until something works and then he loves it and it’s hard to get him out … Continue reading Angling for the right approach

Amongst the critical masses

I ride twice a week for fitness if not more but sometimes it’s good to have a unlikely place to clear your head. For me I go to La for one of the largest regular bike rides you can attend. The last Friday of every month they roll out at 7:29p. All kinds of people and bikes from all different walks of life. This last ride I noticed how many good conversations I had with strangers and realized I don’t really do that anywhere else. Getting there isn’t always easy and the late night takes its tool but every time … Continue reading Amongst the critical masses

Crayola Rocks

So many fears to conquer how do you do it with a child on the spectrum? One at a time is always our reply. Hezzy has always been terrified by the shower so we just let him take a bath. At some point though we knew we would need to tackle that fear just like all the others. Our awesome supervisor for ABA suggested paint soap and we found it for just $1 per color at target. My wife has been working with him and after showing him the soap paint he now requests shower on his own which has … Continue reading Crayola Rocks