Barbershop Stop

I open the door and step into the past with a gentle chime ushering me in the chatter of 3 barber telling jokes and the patrons laughing. For a short period of time I wasn’t at therapies or in a IEP, I was just a guy that was getting a haircut. There are lots of moments when we could be intentional and relational have great conversations meet new people impact those around us. We often choose not to do this though, why is that? Like anything else we have to practice it almost like a muscle people are forgetting to … Continue reading Barbershop Stop

You reap what you sew so invest in people

Whether you are having a typical child or a special needs child it’s natural to pull away for a time. It makes sense as you are trying to balance everything that has changed. The question is when do you try to start hanging out with others. One thing I have noticed a lot is parents with special needs kids sometimes never do. Everyone needs community but when you have a child on the spectrum you feel like you don’t belong anywhere, which makes you retract from people and when something happens there is very few people to lean on . … Continue reading You reap what you sew so invest in people

I blinked and you grew up

I have done my best to make important events and enjoy the moments with my two boys. It still feels like time has gone by soo fast this is Hezzy at his last 6th grade field trip. He has taught me a so much at just 11 yrs old. Don’t be so concerned with what other people think of you. Be happy in every moment regardless of what you thought life was gonna look like Water plants it makes the world a better place 🤣. I don’t know what this next season will bring other then a lot of change. … Continue reading I blinked and you grew up

We can all be Alita better

I like this movie for a lot of reasons but chief among them is the message of what we find important in life. There are people who will stop at nothing to get to the top and Alita is different she cares about people and won’t stand in the presence of evil without doing something. It’s easy to get sucked into materialism or just the idea of wanting more instead of thinking about how we impact others and how we can make a difference. Continue reading We can all be Alita better

The long walk

One of the first things we noticed with our son that indicated he was different was when he would separate himself from everyone else. I am not wired this way and always want to be around people so it has taken some getting use to. As he has gotten older I have started referring to this as the long walk and we work really hard at engaging with him so he doesn’t do it all the time. It has become a bit of a game of cat and mouse and we have fun with it but some times we need … Continue reading The long walk

Just Keep Going

It’s easy to get caught up in going through the motions as parents. Even if you are confident with who you are maybe you struggle with what your doing or where your going . I have had lots of conversations with different people from all different walks of life and scenarios and the question is the same. What am I doing with my life and what should I be doing? A lot of people put this into the box of their profession or charity work, expecting it to both define and fulfill them. Take some time to get away in … Continue reading Just Keep Going

The Adventure Man

I don’t know what age it starts but at some point as adults we lose our sense of adventure. I am not talking about wreck-less chance taking, stay away from those people. I am talking about something that gets you out of your comfort zone and lets you disconnect. A lot of my life as a special needs parent has been about denying all of the denying. How do you do this or that with a special needs child? How do you find time, space to do… I don’t know if it’s cultural or not but a lot of people … Continue reading The Adventure Man

Who am I

It’s easy to get lost in all the therapies and busyness of being a parent with a special needs child. We get so busy we become human doings instead of human beings. Who am I? Am I lost? Finding moments to just be yourself especially something that pulls you out of your normal routine is a activity worth doing. This is me at LA critical mass cruising along the streets of LA. I pick somewhere way different to eat each time I am there and it’s always a adventure. When was the last time you did something on your own? … Continue reading Who am I

Our Dirty Laundry

When you have a kid on the spectrum most of the attention is put on the child and rightly so to help them tackle the world with their unique challenges. One of the things we often over look as parents when we put are kids first is we also put all of our issues on our kids. With out meaning to we bring our dirty laundry for our kids to deal with. A parent that has issues with anger shouldn’t be shocked that their special needs kid has issues with anger. A parent who is really attached to their things … Continue reading Our Dirty Laundry

This one is pho you

It’s hard not to get so wrapped up in my story that I forget there are other people in it. If I have a bad day with kids or feeling the rush of work, getting kids from school then to therapy. Working on my own issues and being available for my wife while helping out at church and my bicycle club, it just doesn’t feel like there is enough time in the day. However every once in a while I am reminded that doing something good can be something simple and that it’s always worth while. My co-worker gave me … Continue reading This one is pho you

Communicating in chaos

What do a watering can an iPad and a autistic kid have in common…. They are all in my room lol. The saying pick your battles is often interjected in dealing with marriage in general and to a lesser extent parenting as well however for parenting a kid with ASD its a survival tool. A battle I will always pick is being careful of non-verbal communication in front of my kids. Watching a really cool show called Reverie on NBC in the opening sequence of the first episode she talks about how much of our communication is non-verbal. Albert Mehrabian, … Continue reading Communicating in chaos

The Forgotten Key

This key sat right out in the open of one of the busiest streets in Chicago. I wondered what the story was behind it and how so many people over looked it and for how long as it had rust on it. Was it just one of many keys or was it a key that was central to someone’s story? During my seminar we talked about a primary key which is needed for a database to work. I feel like a lot of us in the busyness of life loose our primary key what makes us… well us. Make sure … Continue reading The Forgotten Key