Brush brush brush all day long.

I would say my biggest hurtle raising my boys especially my ASD son has been myself. What I think he can and can not do can affect what I slow him to try. My greatest rewards have been when we just tried something without guessing what we thought he could do. I hear a lot of parents say my child can’t do that to which I will always reply are you sure and have you tried it anyway they may surprise you. Brushing teeth was one of our biggest lessons and one of my most painful memories. We brushed his … Continue reading Brush brush brush all day long.

Amongst the critical masses

I ride twice a week for fitness if not more but sometimes it’s good to have a unlikely place to clear your head. For me I go to La for one of the largest regular bike rides you can attend. The last Friday of every month they roll out at 7:29p. All kinds of people and bikes from all different walks of life. This last ride I noticed how many good conversations I had with strangers and realized I don’t really do that anywhere else. Getting there isn’t always easy and the late night takes its tool but every time … Continue reading Amongst the critical masses

Keep your eye on the ball

I always wondered what a professional baseball players thinks about stepping up to the plate to bat. I know they have life issues but in that moment they need to keep their eye on the ball. To train before they step up and know they have done everything they can and the rest is not up to them. As a parent of a special needs child life already feels overwhelming at times. So when that next curve ball comes our way we sometimes feel ill-equipped to handle it. We try to often times control everything with our kids knowing full … Continue reading Keep your eye on the ball

Saw dust your shoes off

Taking time picking the right wood setting it aside. Measure twice and cut once as the saying goes but I seem to need a bit more then that, so I measure more. With all the careful planning and everything executed perfectly it still ends with a dusty bit of chaos. I have to dust my shoes off every time I come back into the house and later go back to clean up the after math. Life follows suit, we plan and plan some more but no matter out how good our intentions there is aways something that doesn’t go the … Continue reading Saw dust your shoes off

Crayola Rocks

So many fears to conquer how do you do it with a child on the spectrum? One at a time is always our reply. Hezzy has always been terrified by the shower so we just let him take a bath. At some point though we knew we would need to tackle that fear just like all the others. Our awesome supervisor for ABA suggested paint soap and we found it for just $1 per color at target. My wife has been working with him and after showing him the soap paint he now requests shower on his own which has … Continue reading Crayola Rocks

Don’t forget your foxtails

This yard is completely infested with foxtails I dread walking past it every time due to a scarring memory. Our first puppy got a foxtail in his paw and we didn’t know. That is until his paw got infected and we had to take him to the vet. I single foxtail gets in their paw and works it’s way up there leg, I have heard horror stories of them getting in a vein and even causing death if untreated. The biggest challenges I have faced both with my son and in life have always started out the same way, small. … Continue reading Don’t forget your foxtails

Challenging

How do you handle challenges with your children? Do you meet them head on or do you avoid them which has worked better? There are definitely times where you need to pick your battles and know your limits this especially true with kids on the spectrum. Hezzy has been afraid of water we taught him to swim and watering plants is his favorite thing to do now. He was terrified of swings, stairs and elevators he loves all three now. Our latest adventure is dogs he is terrified of dogs which has made for some scary moments when it has … Continue reading Challenging

A light at the end of the tunnel

It’s always darkest before the dawn, maybe your driving through a long tunnel in your life wondering when you will see light again. I know there has been times in my life that I have let things get me down and it has stuck for a while. I had exited the tunnel but hadn’t been able to notice. The more I did that the longer it seemed to stick until it feels like all of life is one big tunnel until you see the light. This ends up robbing you of all your relationships with friends, family and even your … Continue reading A light at the end of the tunnel

Broken Swing

As we get older we forgot what it is to go out and play. One of the things I have really enjoyed as a parent is the way my kids pull me back into their world. This has been a easy process with my youngest. Dad come play with us? I just have to remind myself when I am tired or on my phone that it’s worth it to take a moment and play with my kids. With my oldest this has been more of a challenge. With a kid on the spectrum you need to find out what interests … Continue reading Broken Swing

Deciding on discipline

One of the hardest challenges for any parent is deciding how to discipline your child. When you have a special needs child this gets more complicated. When you feel like you have things figured out you have another child and have to start over. For us this has been the biggest of challenges and the best of opportunities with our youngest son. Hezzy doesn’t test us like Mattox does this shot was taken after he had wrote something he wasn’t suppose to at school. All the normal things float through your head. Am I failing as a parent? Could I … Continue reading Deciding on discipline

A change of direction

Since we moved into this house this section always flooded due to the fact that this little rain gutter piece was facing the chimney. We have a flat roof on this part of the house and all of the water gets redirected here just changing this tiny piece completely fixed that problem as there is a drain right there. I feel like I have had a lot of conversations with people that are not happy with their life or something about their life and they haven’t changed anything. To which I always reply Nothing will change if you don’t change … Continue reading A change of direction

Does a autistic boy go pee in the woods

It’s amazing how something that can seem so simple becomes such a challenge with a kiddo on the spectrum. We have had a lot of challenges that I would consider “funny” but this one, at least for now takes the cake. We were out searching for a sledding spot in the snow with no access to a bathroom and had just walked our way down a valley that would work. When I hear those dreaded words “go potty” which are normally a welcome sentence at home. I told him ok buddy let’s go over here to which he replied “no … Continue reading Does a autistic boy go pee in the woods