Things 3 -The todo list to rule them all

With a child on the spectrum its tough to juggle all the therapies and things to do so this is a quick over view of the todo list I have decided on. It isn’t perfect but its the best I have found. The good Clean interface Ability to handle complex “Projects” Able to create complicated repeating events Areas divides areas of your life and works well with tags when things over lap Integrated with calendar so you see it all in one place Iphone and ipad are distinctive apps not just a replay Apple Watch integration is the best I … Continue reading Things 3 -The todo list to rule them all

The long walk

One of the first things we noticed with our son that indicated he was different was when he would separate himself from everyone else. I am not wired this way and always want to be around people so it has taken some getting use to. As he has gotten older I have started referring to this as the long walk and we work really hard at engaging with him so he doesn’t do it all the time. It has become a bit of a game of cat and mouse and we have fun with it but some times we need … Continue reading The long walk

Just Keep Going

It’s easy to get caught up in going through the motions as parents. Even if you are confident with who you are maybe you struggle with what your doing or where your going . I have had lots of conversations with different people from all different walks of life and scenarios and the question is the same. What am I doing with my life and what should I be doing? A lot of people put this into the box of their profession or charity work, expecting it to both define and fulfill them. Take some time to get away in … Continue reading Just Keep Going

The Adventure Man

I don’t know what age it starts but at some point as adults we lose our sense of adventure. I am not talking about wreck-less chance taking, stay away from those people. I am talking about something that gets you out of your comfort zone and lets you disconnect. A lot of my life as a special needs parent has been about denying all of the denying. How do you do this or that with a special needs child? How do you find time, space to do… I don’t know if it’s cultural or not but a lot of people … Continue reading The Adventure Man

Laidback

Just a few seconds before this shot he was throwing a fit about having his shoes on at the park. We say “I pick my battles” all the time but how well do we do that? I have found that being more laid back has helped turn a fit into giggling more often then not. How good are you at picking your battles? Do you have a bad day when your child is having a bad day? We become the solid rudder that steadies the ship if we stay positive and patient with our kids it isn’t easy but it’s … Continue reading Laidback

This one is pho you

It’s hard not to get so wrapped up in my story that I forget there are other people in it. If I have a bad day with kids or feeling the rush of work, getting kids from school then to therapy. Working on my own issues and being available for my wife while helping out at church and my bicycle club, it just doesn’t feel like there is enough time in the day. However every once in a while I am reminded that doing something good can be something simple and that it’s always worth while. My co-worker gave me … Continue reading This one is pho you

Brush brush brush all day long.

I would say my biggest hurtle raising my boys especially my ASD son has been myself. What I think he can and can not do can affect what I slow him to try. My greatest rewards have been when we just tried something without guessing what we thought he could do. I hear a lot of parents say my child can’t do that to which I will always reply are you sure and have you tried it anyway they may surprise you. Brushing teeth was one of our biggest lessons and one of my most painful memories. We brushed his … Continue reading Brush brush brush all day long.

Keep your eye on the ball

I always wondered what a professional baseball players thinks about stepping up to the plate to bat. I know they have life issues but in that moment they need to keep their eye on the ball. To train before they step up and know they have done everything they can and the rest is not up to them. As a parent of a special needs child life already feels overwhelming at times. So when that next curve ball comes our way we sometimes feel ill-equipped to handle it. We try to often times control everything with our kids knowing full … Continue reading Keep your eye on the ball

A light at the end of the tunnel

It’s always darkest before the dawn, maybe your driving through a long tunnel in your life wondering when you will see light again. I know there has been times in my life that I have let things get me down and it has stuck for a while. I had exited the tunnel but hadn’t been able to notice. The more I did that the longer it seemed to stick until it feels like all of life is one big tunnel until you see the light. This ends up robbing you of all your relationships with friends, family and even your … Continue reading A light at the end of the tunnel

Broken Swing

As we get older we forgot what it is to go out and play. One of the things I have really enjoyed as a parent is the way my kids pull me back into their world. This has been a easy process with my youngest. Dad come play with us? I just have to remind myself when I am tired or on my phone that it’s worth it to take a moment and play with my kids. With my oldest this has been more of a challenge. With a kid on the spectrum you need to find out what interests … Continue reading Broken Swing

A change of direction

Since we moved into this house this section always flooded due to the fact that this little rain gutter piece was facing the chimney. We have a flat roof on this part of the house and all of the water gets redirected here just changing this tiny piece completely fixed that problem as there is a drain right there. I feel like I have had a lot of conversations with people that are not happy with their life or something about their life and they haven’t changed anything. To which I always reply Nothing will change if you don’t change … Continue reading A change of direction