Barbershop Stop

I open the door and step into the past with a gentle chime ushering me in the chatter of 3 barber telling jokes and the patrons laughing. For a short period of time I wasn’t at therapies or in a IEP, I was just a guy that was getting a haircut. There are lots of moments when we could be intentional and relational have great conversations meet new people impact those around us. We often choose not to do this though, why is that? Like anything else we have to practice it almost like a muscle people are forgetting to … Continue reading Barbershop Stop

The Adventure Man

I don’t know what age it starts but at some point as adults we lose our sense of adventure. I am not talking about wreck-less chance taking, stay away from those people. I am talking about something that gets you out of your comfort zone and lets you disconnect. A lot of my life as a special needs parent has been about denying all of the denying. How do you do this or that with a special needs child? How do you find time, space to do… I don’t know if it’s cultural or not but a lot of people … Continue reading The Adventure Man

Who am I

It’s easy to get lost in all the therapies and busyness of being a parent with a special needs child. We get so busy we become human doings instead of human beings. Who am I? Am I lost? Finding moments to just be yourself especially something that pulls you out of your normal routine is a activity worth doing. This is me at LA critical mass cruising along the streets of LA. I pick somewhere way different to eat each time I am there and it’s always a adventure. When was the last time you did something on your own? … Continue reading Who am I

Angling for the right approach

There will always be moments in your life when you are trying to help someone see the other side of a dark time and your not sure how to help them. One of the biggest lessons my son has taught me is to keep trying different angles. He loves to swim but every year I have to help him remember. He will yell and scream “no Pool no Pool” to which I reply “you love the Pool bubba don’t you remember”. I try different things until something works and then he loves it and it’s hard to get him out … Continue reading Angling for the right approach

Amongst the critical masses

I ride twice a week for fitness if not more but sometimes it’s good to have a unlikely place to clear your head. For me I go to La for one of the largest regular bike rides you can attend. The last Friday of every month they roll out at 7:29p. All kinds of people and bikes from all different walks of life. This last ride I noticed how many good conversations I had with strangers and realized I don’t really do that anywhere else. Getting there isn’t always easy and the late night takes its tool but every time … Continue reading Amongst the critical masses

Don’t forget your foxtails

This yard is completely infested with foxtails I dread walking past it every time due to a scarring memory. Our first puppy got a foxtail in his paw and we didn’t know. That is until his paw got infected and we had to take him to the vet. I single foxtail gets in their paw and works it’s way up there leg, I have heard horror stories of them getting in a vein and even causing death if untreated. The biggest challenges I have faced both with my son and in life have always started out the same way, small. … Continue reading Don’t forget your foxtails

Challenging

How do you handle challenges with your children? Do you meet them head on or do you avoid them which has worked better? There are definitely times where you need to pick your battles and know your limits this especially true with kids on the spectrum. Hezzy has been afraid of water we taught him to swim and watering plants is his favorite thing to do now. He was terrified of swings, stairs and elevators he loves all three now. Our latest adventure is dogs he is terrified of dogs which has made for some scary moments when it has … Continue reading Challenging